Anonymous asked: Salaam, Lema! :) Do you have any general hijab-ing tips? xD
These are some things I jotted down a while ago for someone who asked about whether or not to start wearing hijab. These are the tips I’ve come up with on wearing/starting to wear a headscarf:
- Are you doing it for the right reasons? Your intentions when putting on a hijab must be pure. You have to have a full conviction in what you are doing; I would not advise anyone to wear a hijab because she feels pressured to do so by other people.
- Have you worked on your inner hijab before putting on the outer hijab? See this post for more details.
- Are you fully prepared to receive negative comments about your hijab and about Islam as a whole? Are you prepared to defend your religion as well as your dress? For Muslims living in majority Muslim countries, this might not be an issue. But in the West, it certainly is, so you need to be willing to answer questions about your faith and stand your ground when necessary.
- Are you aware of the fact that this is not temporary? God willing, your hijab will not be something you take on and off. It is a commitment, so you must understand that. If it is your decision, and your intentions are pure, insha Allah you will be able to keep it on.
- Your confidence may or may not decrease after you start wearing a hijab. For me, I certainly found that I had to search for my confidence elsewhere. But I found it, and insha Allah you will too. Assurance in your knowledge and actions is, in my opinion, the best kind of confidence.
- Your friends? They will still be your friends…Muslim or non-Muslim. And if they give you any words other than encouragement, then they aren’t really your friends to begin with.
- You will have days when you want to take it off and wonder why you ever wanted to put it on in the first place. For this reason, I highly advise you, before you wear it for the first time in public, write down all the reasons that you are wearing it. And write down how you feel when you wear it. It’ll help you on days when you feel less than up to covering your hair just to go to the grocery store.
Now we can move on to the easy stuff.
- Go on a weeklong “trial period” just to see if you are fully ready to take the step.
- You should start taking some multi-vitamins. I have heard from many girls that their hair thins from the top. Don’t worry, you’re not going to form a bald spot. But taking some Biotin will certainly help you.
- Also on the hair thinning note, I’ve found that if you cut bangs (they can be longer and side swept or whatever, but short enough that they don’t fit in a ponytail) and then bobby pin them to the side, you’re much less likely to have a problem with your hair thinning.
- Buy lots of hijabs. You don’t want to feel discouraged because you don’t have a hijab to match your favorite outfit. So get lots of them from the get-go so that you don’t have to be sad your favorite skirt is now useless.
- Two words: Hijab tutorials. Yeah it’s kind of weird going on Youtube before a party to look at how you will wrap your hijab, but hey, whatever works.
- Work on your wardrobe slowly. Do your jeans look like they were painted on you? Cool. Start wearing wider skinny jeans. Progress slowly so you don’t get overwhelmed.
- And last, but certainly not least, remember to be yourself. You don’t want to change your whole personality just because you wear a scarf on your head. If you’re outgoing, stay that way; if you’re shy, then don’t feel like you can’t be anymore.